Disclaimer: I write satire most of the time.. I have learned these many lessons myself.. I'm not pointing my finger at any one person just relating what I feel and hear from others in general. If this strikes a cord with you personally than it might be something you need to deal with in your own heart. It's just observations people... just observations.. just go with it and then take a walk.
Part 2 of a 3 part series.
AVOIDING FACE BOOK SOCIAL MELT DOWNS
|Me On Vacation 2014|
You are not less than!! You have a different story and one that can't be compared to others. I know it's hard to stay connected online when you see things that you wish had transpired in your life differently, or that you didn't get, it's a constant reminder. I have those things in my life.
When I step back from the painful in my face "this is not your life" , I realize that my jealousy of someone else's good thing is an issue that is in my heart!! It would be the same if I was jealous of someone's fancy house I drive by.. it's not their issue it's mine!! If we can't rejoice in other people's good things in life then we are only feeding the monster inside of us that is discontent or of past un-dealt with feelings. When I see that group of friends that a singe of jealousy comes up inside of "wow that would be nice", or a group that I used to be a part of but for some reason the invites stopped, I began to ask the hard questions. What in my life is lacking or a hurt that I am not moving on from.
For those who seem to have that "Perfect Life" (whatever that is) be happy for them, they don't know they are over posting!! You know that it's not all rosy all the time, they are human too and maybe their fun will inspire you to go do something different or fun or think outside the box.
I know that there are just plain hard things to see so here are a few tips I think would help the Facebook community of posters, stalkers, pokers, likers and on the fence haters.
FACEBOOK TIPS FOR LESS SOCIAL MELT DOWNS
1. Think about others but don't let it cripple you from posting at all. People love seeing your pictures but keep in mind if you post your raging party and leave a close friends (or what they thought was a close friendship) out, they are going to see it and be hurt. Just have your stupid party and enjoy your friends and don't post it. Nobody really cares.. except the people you just dumped. (by the way you know there is a filter for "share with only these people") If you want to share your pics with that group then you can do that without the world needing to see it. Sorry if that sounds harsh but think about it.
2. There are days that maybe staying off Facebook is better for our hearts. Just don't go there where Holidays produce picture after picture of something you miss. I've been there it can hurt and it's time to focus on other stuff and be thankful for other things in your life.
3. Vacations, I love to see where you go!! If you go on 4 or more vacations a year, please explain on the 5th vacation how you do it. I mean I think that might help... For instance: Hey I received an inheritance! or Hey we Charged another tropical vacation! Hey we are heading to the China because we love fortune cookies and we've been to every other country and never work! "Hey we get up every day and work our tails off so we are vacationing again!!... Get a job or two or three so you can too! Really we onlookers just need one and that's our deal, but some explanation would be helpful so we can get there.
4. You don't have to be friends with everyone!! If they stir up turmoil in your heart block them. If their posts are annoying unfollow. There is a little arrow on the right side of each post in the feed that you can choose your own destination with that persons post and future posts.. just saying. I know I have probably been blocked or unfriended.. it happens move on.
5. Don't be my friend ONLY to solicit your online party or business. This is a no brainer people.. I will speak no further.
6. Don't over post about one thing. It's great and important you are doing blah blah blah.. and I know it's important to let people know you did blah blah blah but MIX IT UP!!! Throw in a cat picture for Heaven's sake!!! Just be you and be real and all that will fall in to place naturally, don't force it down people's throats. This goes for business, kids, pets, news, political issues, faith, reposts and shares, ALL of it!!
7. Hard lesson of not exploiting our children: I have been GUILTY myself. I humbly say I have learned and regretted some of my posts in the past. If I post something about my kids or pictures that are goofy I get their permission first. Their whole life does not need to be displayed. Again I stand guilty of this in the past and I stand firm with asking them first as a filter for my own over posting parental mistakes and what I think is "cute".
8. Be able to walk away without announcing it as if you are divorcing everyone. Most people think that's super dumb, you know the "break up status post". We all know you will be back when you want something or realize that you've missed a bunch of important events. I mean Facebook is like not checking your mail box back in the day. It's where people are and where things are known and where you can interact on a different level. Walk away but don't be so dramatic.. geesh! (Again guilty in my formative FB years)
9. Sharing Links about False News So if something seems off it probably is.. go check out snopes.com before you stand behind it. People get all freaked out about things and then come to find out it wasn't even real, it was just some bored person trying to get click throughs... Please Please stop sharing these ridiculous stories and giving these people fuel.
10. The Chain Posts: We've seen them.. If you truly believe this than post it on your wall, like it, share it if you truly love Jesus. Please Stop.. We shouldn't have to follow those stupid rules and sharing posts that publicly make other people roll their eyes. There is not magic in any of those posts. God knows my heart and I should be living a life that reflects my faith not have to use scare tatics on a Facebook photo, that probably is collecting data on everyone who clicks on it.. by the way.
I can't think of any more right now, I'm sure they will come. I think the best thing is to work on loving others, not being jealous of what we don't have, be considerate of other's ideas and thoughts, like what we like, block what disturbs us. and by all means if you really don't like being there don't be and don't make everyone else feel shamed for liking it. Run your race, I'll hand you water when you need it. I won't be booing you holding up my flag that reads "gluttony rocks" just because I don't like running! I may not do it well or understand why others would want to do such a painful thing or want to, but Seriously.... if I choose not to run I better not be complaining to others about it or sad when all my friends are in shape and look good in their skinny jeans!! (I however unfriend runners).
Stay tuned for Post 3 about why I LOVE and think Facebook is a good thing.
Please feel free to comment below and let's get the dialogue going.
If you didn't read Part 1 here is the link. PART ONE